This is of my favorite. This calling.  Not because it is easy, or because it is always grand. This calling can even feel lonely, strange as it seems. But it can be glorious even still. Glorious in the riches of wisdom when we seek them and in the grace we receive.

An excellent wife is the crown of her husband  Proverbs 12:4

A crown. Not the head, not even the heart. Not the record keeper or reminder of holy things. She is a crown (if she be excellent).

Crowns are meant to draw attention to the wearer not the crown herself. **Just think on that.** That little detail can very quickly rearrange the way we plan our daily lives, if we let it. And in a way, it’s a great relief to me. That I can be about someone else, and not so self-focused on my gifts or even opportunities. To be an extension of my husband and a crown for his honor. And any gift I have, that I aim is to use it to bless him, to bless his children and represent him in a godly way.

Sometimes our personalities are louder than theirs. In a culture of self-promoting, we as wives need to guard ourselves from separating from our husbands. I’m not saying we can’t enjoy time with friends or deny the chance to use our gifts for God’s glory. The point isn’t that we avoid participating or stepping out, the point is that whatever we do, we do as extension of the men we married. We do this because it is God’s blueprint. And we do this because we love God.

It takes a great deal of wisdom, grace and humility to be a helper and supporter. But as God makes us able, we become his most prized possession, more and more. A crown he wears that signifies his place as a loved leader. He has faults, he has fears and he certainly has trials. But those are objects of God’s business, not ours. We are a crown whether he is a prince or not. We are crowns because God calls us such, should we trust Him in this way.

It is not too hard, sister. For it is much harder to stay independent, yet call ourselves helpmeets. What a conflict that would be to live within ourselves… and most likely in our homes too.

Social media has a way about it… to feed on our accomplishments and opinions. All of the sudden we have a voice, an image and even supporters regardless if we walk in godliness as a wife or not. All of the sudden there are 30 people who like how we think even if our husband be ashamed. How tragic. (I say this with my heart, not my sarcasm. And a step further, read the second half of that Proverbs verse.) Friend, stand with me and help me stand. Our calling is a much more beautiful one than that. It is about someone else. And Christ has said there is no greater love than to lay down your life for your friend. Your husband is your friend. God has designed for you to be a crown. Can you even think of a better piece to be worn as? The most prominent place on a man, crowning him with honor.

As we do this, we honor God. As we point to our husbands, we can more easily point to Christ. He is making us fit for His kingdom in this way. May our faith in God fuel our commitment to live a life of serving and submitting. And when our faith is weak, we do what the disciples did. We ask Him to increase the little faith we have. We decide to trust and obey God every day because He has a sovereignty that we can barely scratch the surface of understanding, oh but He is worthy. And every day we plow and plant this attitude, we sow seeds in the hearts of our children. Seeds that Christ is the head of His church and the husband, the head of the family. They respect the order God provided as they see you at work with all good fidelity, adorning the doctrine of God our Savior in all things.

When we do these things for the glory of God, we never do them in vain.